I'm lucky she can't drive so she only sees us when we go down to her which I try and drag it out to once a month and even that is to soon but I do it for my husband. If anyone has come to this point it is because reason and respect are non-existent and compromise becomes unreachable. No one knows this better than Apter. When the grandson from the first marriage stayed with them and to this day, she would physically and verbally abuse him. To make the in-law relationship work, each woman should respect the other's family unit instead of fighting to dominate.
He though retaliate to my remark but also accapted the fact and promised me to work on that. I yelled her that it was my money. Email Address never made public. We measured distance in miles between parties using home addresses provided for participant payment and entered the de-identified miles in the database. She has her opinions which are different which is fine but disrespects my wishes.
My younger grandchildren stay with me from time to time as well. It may take some work on your part before her insecurity about you taking her son away from her eases. So many things you said were just spot on my husband and I have had an Ah Ha moment! My husband works long hours and only gets a little amount of time with them during the week so the weekends are our time. My mother has been a dominant figure in our family life. The house takeover is one thing, but the crap they say to my kids another.
I would really appreciate some insight on my situation with my MIL. If I went in the kitchen she went to the living room. Where such developments have had, or are expected to have, a deleterious effect on older women's capacity to support themselves or secure the support of their family, mothers-in-law are adopting a variety of strategies towards their daughters-in-law, including that of appeasement. I have a narcisstic mother in law who is used to getting her way. I stay out of her way with great respect. Your husband should be the one that monitors your SIL and if necessary escorts her out.